:( i’m so sorry bunny. That’s why this blog is here <3 People are annoying but it can be really hard nights when the person you’re upset with is yourself, or when it’s hard to cope. <3 i’m thinking of you <3 be safe.
Thankyou! For the meantime no one has asked/submitted anything but really feel free to c:
I messed around with a theme for a bit, buuut the submit button seems to be not showing. Just put /submit next to the url until I can figure something out.
Have a nice day!
Hello everyone, it’s been about 3 months since I posted anything! Really, I thought PTSDPuma had been inactive for much longer than that, but hey this is kind of a nice surprise.
I’ve checked in a couple times in the past week and noticed that while I haven’t posted anything or answered any questions, there’s still a formidable following on here!
The first run of this blog was fun, although very overwhelming and at times a little dramatic. Mods would come and go every few months due to inability to keep up with the load of messages and submissions, or their situation changed where they needed to focus on themselves. All in all, it was very difficult to find people in stable situations who could also meet the criteria I looked for. I created this blog sometime 2 ish years ago and never ever expected it to become so popular!
The sharp rise in popularity was partly a blessing and partly a curse, as I know many people used this as a support network as I did too. However, the intensity and frequency of the messages and submissions we got was pretty overwhelming and exhausting. I did a faaaair bit of growing in the past year and a half, and I realize that while this blog was meant to be supportive and helpful, it also perpetuated some less than stellar ideas on how to cope with symptoms. I never wanted to promote ideas that, in hindsight, were actually manipulative and unhealthy. Alas, I can’t do much about it!
So I am considering restarting PTSDPuma part-time. I won’t be active each and every day, but I’ll answer a couple questions and post a couple submissions every few days. I’ll need to revise our guidelines and fix up some things before I “relaunch” the blog.
There’s a few reasons I came back, and it’s mostly because I feel better equipped to handle the heavy load this blog comes with. I also would like to continue supporting people who need it. One of the major reasons I’m wanting to restart this blog is because it’s a positive space and recently I’ve been falling into a bitter, spiteful mindset that I’d like to work my way out of.
I won’t be looking for admins as I’m less than eager to deal with applications and the trial-and-error process of finding reliable people. I’d appreciate if you folks could also keep your questions light and refer to the FAQ before you ask stuff. In the past I know I offered to make the Puma memes for you, but I won’t be offering that anymore as there are plenty of meme generators on the internet and there’s a template available on the sidebar!
I’ll be making changes to the theme too, as classic as the current one is, and trimming a bit of the links!
As for the load of questions in the message box (close to 100), I’ll be clearing that as I think most to all of those submissions/questions are way past their due. Sorry to anyone who was expecting an answer, but gosh there’s just a ton to go through and I’d like to start fresh!
Thanks for sticking around, I hope this second run goes a lot smoother!
I’d just like to let everyone know that this blog, in the foreseeable future, will not be active very much. I’ll answer questions in my free time and when I’m able, but this will mostly be kept open as an archive. For the time being I’m shutting down the ask and submission boxes as people are still sending in things and we have close to 100 messages to answer. Please don’t send in fanmail asking me to post things or answer questions!! I feel kinda mean saying that, but it just adds to the big mass of inquiries we already have in the inbox.
Thank you for your patience and understanding!
Hey! Sorry for the late reply! Informing other people, especially close friends and family members and people you’ll be living with, of mental health issues can be a very difficult and nerve-wracking thing to do. Sometimes I feel as if I’m being judged, trivialized, or overwhelming whoever I tell based on past experience and knowledge of various stigmas the person might believe about mental illness. More often than not I’ve received good support, which is surprising!
I usually suggest writing down the entire speech so you don’t have to memorize it all, and it makes it easier to keep on track and organize your thoughts. Especially if you’re talking to multiple people, trying to memorize the same spiel over and over again can be frustrating.
The first step is to familiarize yourself with these people first, get to know them and get used to them. Depending on how well you socialize it can take a while, but I think it’s worth it to gauge how to pace yourself and explain these things to them.
Secondly, TIME. To explain something like this can’t be a quick passing-by comment, so it is best to do it one on one when both of you have a window of time to discuss these things thoroughly. Start off slowly, asking them to listen as you are sharing important and personal information with them, this piques their interest and will help form a bond of trust between one another.
Thirdly, in anyway you want, explain what PTSD is and follow up with what things you experience personally. Explaining the illness’s basics first makes it easier for them to understand your personal issues (assuming they don’t know anything about PTSD!). You do not need to share your trauma or answer any questions they ask you that make you uncomfortable (make sure they know those kinds of questions are uncomfortable to you), explaining what can trigger you, how certain symptoms can be very subtle, how it can be difficult to complete simple/complex tasks, and how you may need support and encouragement from time to time in simple terms can help them understand better. If they understand what you deal with, you can then explain how they can support you. Not everyone knows how, and they can end up being impatient and invalidating. For example, If some days you have a lot of difficulty getting out of bed, explain to them how they can help you (if you wish them to) in easy ways without accidentally triggering you or harming you.
Now, it’s likely they’ll interrupt you with questions, and those questions might be triggering and upsetting. Explaining something as big as this can be veeery exhausting, especially with invasive/uncomfy questions. Again, just explain to them that those questions make you uncomfortable and you’d rather not talk about it for now, and depending on whether you’re ok with it, mention that you can talk about it later. At the end of the talk, you can ask them to not tell the other roommates about this (if you’re uncomfortable with having this info passed around by someone else) and that you’ll explain it to everyone else later.
After all is said and done, you might feel a variety of emotions. You can be frustrated, panicky, exhausted, dissociated, relieved etc. Take care of yourself appropriately depending on how you feel, as that is very important!!!
Talking slowly and with simple terms, making sure to explain everything thoroughly, is very effective as to not overwhelming or scaring the person you’re talking to. You can never “make it sound worse than it is”, you don’t need to explain your traumas or what can happen in response to flashbacks and symptoms, just explaining your symptoms and how they can help support you is very much good enough!
I hope this helped, I’ve been pretty out of the loop so I might’ve missed some info or been too general in some parts. Take care!
If you’re still unsure if she meant to be helpful or hurtful, I suggest asking her about it next time you see her. Her explanation might clear up a lot of confusion and then you can fill her in on how you’d like her to treat you, your input is important and cared about!
Yes, exactly! Just assuming that every client will understand and appreciate you trying to minimize their struggles so it’s “easier to swallow” so to speak can be veeeery damaging! I wish professionals did this more often, asking individual clients their take on their struggles, rather than just try to mold them to fit their belief. My clinician can definitely behave in this manner and she’s got quite a powerful personality so it’s difficult to get her not to!
PTSD is an anxiety disorder yes, I was referring to the psych just brushing off their struggles with “oh honey, you aren’t mentally ill […]”. Any and all types of anxiety should be understood and acknowledged, but to brush it off as if it’s not mental illness if you understand it can very much be invalidating to many folks!
I’m sorry if my wording came across as that! I’ll go back and change it so I’m not telling them what they should feel, since that’s inappropriate and doesn’t allow them to have more of a voice.
She’s not you, you are the only person who really knows what you live with, and this is (from what I can take from your message) your first meeting. Stating that your anxieties are understandable can be comforting, but it can also be damaging and unprofessional to say that because your anxieties are understandable then you mustn’t struggle with mental illness! Sometimes people believe that taking away the label of “mentally ill” and instead trying to frame your struggles as something understandable and common can help someone cope with them better. “Mentally ill”, with all stigmas attached, can sometimes overwhelm people and discourage them from recovering. However, every individual is different, so whilst it may help someone to remove the “mentally ill” label, it might come across as invalidating and minimizing to another. Of course, you are your own person and whether or not you feel relieved, invalidated, angry, upset, etc. (or a combination of all of those) at her comment is equally valid. Personally, I’d be pretty upset at it because it immediately comes across as erasure of personal struggles and rather ableist to me. It’s okay to have mixed feelings about it!