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All kinds of trauma are valid. Unfortunately, bullying isn’t taken seriously as a real form of abuse to many people, but any kind of torment that hurts a person physically, emotionally, and mentally is abusive. When people see the word ‘abuse’, they may first think of personal relationships where someone is manipulating the other at the expense of the victim, such as people who constantly criticize their friends and partners, but not enough attention is focused on school-ground abuse where there may not be an interpersonal relationship between the victim and the abuser. Bullying is most associated with abuse that occurs at school, but bullying is the same as abuse.
Because school is associated with developing teenagers and children, bullying may be seen as “superficial” teasing or rough-housing, because teenagers and children are difficult to see as being capable of the same violence and destructive behaviour as their adult counterparts. People may even believe that bullying is a normal part of the school experience and development of a child. This is wrong, as it normalizes abusive behaviour in children and they grow up thinking it’s okay to treat others this way, and abusive behaviour will only worsen over time. Unfortunately, it’s not uncommon to hear of kids killing themselves because of the torment they face from bullying.
To put it simply, bullying is abuse because the attacker is putting the victim through emotional, physical, and/or mental harm. Bullying really just is a term that describes the abuse that occurs in school. Bullying often causes the victim to develop anxiety disorders and other mental illnesses, including PTSD. It’s a-okay to call it abuse if you’re more comfortable with that to describe your experience!
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Hey anon! It’s always very difficult to deal with a first anniversary. Many feelings such as anger, fear, sadness, panic, and so on can be felt, especially classic PTSD symptoms such as nightmares and flashbacks. It’s a very distressing time, but try not to see it as a necessarily horrible thing. Usually, experience and practice is best for making anniversaries as painless as possible, some people (depending on what kind of anniversary this is) can even turn it into an enjoyable time. That sounds morbid, but for example, the birthdays of people you’ve been very close to who have died can be turned from times of sadness and grief to actual celebrations. Of course, this takes time and energy to be able to do that, it’s a hard job!
The best way to deal with upsetting things is to distract yourself as much as possible. If you’ve ever been in a situation where you feel unusually sad, fearful, or paranoid (and many other feelings), you’ll notice that just sitting around and letting yourself dwell makes you that much worse. Distraction can be hard to do in itself, because you don’t know how to distract yourself, or you can’t focus on the task at hand because things are still boiling in the back of your head. I’ve seen many suggestions for distractions like watching a movie, listening to music, and stuff that doesn’t really require your hands. If watching movies and shows and listening to music helps you ground yourself and distract you, then use that as much as you like! However, I know a lot of people will find they can’t engage themselves if they aren’t using their hands or more of their senses, or if they can’t express themselves someway. Depending on how sensitive you are to your emotions, expressing your feelings through art and words can be good to ground yourself. However, it can also get you even more wrapped up in your feelings because you are putting your trauma and subsequent feelings into something you can read and/or see, which might amplify it, as well as having to cycle through your thoughts and feelings to make the piece of art. So, that’s a double edged sword.
I tend to try and do stuff that involves the use of my hands, that takes up a lot of time, but isn’t so repetitive that it lets my mind wander. Things like sewing a stuffed animal (for yourself or a loved one), drawing something you like, making something out of clay, solving really big puzzles, exercising, cleaning your room/house, making a big meal, having a conversation with a friend or someone you care about (I’ll elaborate on that), or anything else you can think of that would be a good distraction.
On our page, we have a button on the sidebar called “Self Help”, it gives a bunch of resources and exercises you can utilize to ground yourself and alleviate negative feelings. Exercises such as mindfulness involve you to sit quietly for a minute or so, completely focusing on your present emotions, environment, and physical feelings. There’s a lot of different mindfulness techniques you can find on the internet, try out a few every day to see which ones work best and calm you down.
As for friends and people you care about, communication can often help people the most. Especially when we deal with highly-charged emotions, dissociation, PTSD symptoms, and so forth, having someone you care about and can open up to can do wonders for your mental health. Supportive people can be there for you to vent and alleviate emotions, to make sure you stay safe throughout the day (or few), and interact with you in order to distract you and keep you grounded.
That’s about all I can think of off the top of my head, I hope this serves as a good starting point!
Hey! I know that many communities can offer sliding scale or free services for therapy and counselling, however I do not know what country you live in. It would be dependent on where you live, first and foremost, and what services are available in your area. I live in Canada, therefore I know the Canadian mental health system, and could give you advice if you live in Canada.
Here’s a pretty cool scientific article I found on how PTSD can alter the physical structure of the brain, and how that might translate into many of the symptoms including memory.
There’s a few mentions of traumas, both sexual and otherwise, but the article doesn’t describe any in much depth, and they’re only really mentioned in the frame of statistics or to give an example.
It’s a scientific article in that it has legit sources and is written by a doctor, but it’s an easy read, and it’s not too long. It’s really interesting, and it might help some people to better explain to others what PTSD is and how it works.
PTSD works differently with everyone, just like with depression, people can experience many years symptom-free and then suddenly crash back into a depressive episode. It’s going to be difficult to say whether or not your PTSD is going into remission or has “disappeared” completely, thankfully PTSD is not necessarily permanent with everyone. Without effective treatments PTSD definitely can and often will be a life-long illness. For many receiving effective treatments, PTSD can go into remission and “disappear” completely, leaving them symptom free for the rest of their life. For others, effective treatment will just make them a lot better at dealing with symptoms, but the symptoms are still there and will be for the rest of their life. And lastly, people sometimes can believe they no longer have PTSD, cut off all the ties they have with the mental health system and be off-prescription for years, and suddenly be triggered into a relapse. It can be very difficult to tell!
With my PTSD specifically, I like to believe that it is going into remission as I’ve been experiencing the iconic symptoms less and less, with flashbacks few and far between, and dissociation is no longer scary or nightmarish however semi-frequent. I’m not on any medications and am purely using tools learned in DBT, but I still have issues with hallucinations and paranoia (which could very well be a different problem altogether). It could be that I have a very good handle on my symptoms and they’re permanent, or it could be that I am no longer affected by PTSD. I think it’s probably the former, because like you mentioned, I get some nasty reminders now and then.
Either way, I can’t say whether or not you don’t have PTSD anymore, for some people PTSD can be removed if treated quickly and well enough, and for some others the symptoms just get easier and easier to deal with but it’s going to be a life-long illness. I’m proud that you’ve gone this far, that’s a really big accomplishment!